Many people have this question popping into their heads on a daily basis. And is that they do not stop thinking as soon as they have any doubt or fear of not being enough, not for others but for themselves.
I am going to try to give an answer to this curious answer, read on, to see if we can calm that restless mind.
For starters, if you didn’t think you weren’t enough, it would mean you were already established and successful. Feeling incompetent, useless or unfulfilled is the springboard to personal growth. You are in very good company. I think 90% or more of people, especially young people, don’t feel good enough.
Thus, the belief (or conviction) of being inadequate is the most common of all.
But you want to know what you have to do so you don’t feel stupid, so you don’t feel embarrassed. Well, that’s easy to say. First of all, let me tell you that all this is normal:
we’ve all been there, even your parents and grandparents felt inadequate, inadequate, good for nothing. But life forced them to get busy, to strive, to gain experience. You simply lack experience, or better yet, you lack practice, like everyone else who complains that they don’t measure up.
You’re still a beginner, you’re still a novice. You pretend to be good without having “repeated” enough! You’re in too much of a hurry to grow up!
We behave like those kids who go to parties from time to time and each time feel out of place, uncomfortable, don’t know what to say or do and feel lost. This is a normal situation. If you don’t go to parties very often, it is natural to feel uncomfortable every time you do.
If you don’t practice that fear for a long time, it’s obvious that you won’t be able to make an assessment and you will mistakenly believe that you are worthless. I also tell you that if you don’t try hard enough now, five years from now you may still be good, yes, “five” years from now! but it may be too late.
We are very good at the things we do every day and we are clumsy at the things we do the first time.
Let me get my point across even better. Everyone says I’m good at telling stories. But it’s not that I have a special talent: I’ve been doing it for a long time and it’s logical that by writing a lot I become more and more skilled. It’s no coincidence, there’s a lot of time invested and a lot of text written.
But I also have fears. For example, when it comes to giving an impromptu speech, I feel blocked. Do you know why? Because I have always avoided it. I lack practice and facing the problem head on, and now is when I’m taking that step on the right path.
Success in life depends above all on training, on repetition.
It is only by repeating that we become good at it! By dint of repetition, the things we do become habits and therefore automatic. We are all incompetent the first few times. It cannot be otherwise.
